So simple.
I was just thinking about the meaning of life/happiness on my drive home the other night and I honestly think I’ve got it figured it out. The thing is, it’s really not that complicated, but I’ll grant you that it’s maybe a little more complicated than a pithy cartoon would have you believe.
The cartoon does make a good point, though. Modern life is already hard enough and the last thing anyone needs is a significant other who makes life harder. In general, life is too short to have negative energy-stealing people consume any portion of your life, and at some point in your 20s you figure out who those people are and you shut it down. I guess some people might thrive on that kind of stuff and live for drama and conflict but nothing sounds more awful and soul-crushing to me than keeping people you absolutely loathe in your life just because you might get a good blog post or two out of it.
Now, I’m not saying everything should come easy because relationships are hard work and require nurturing and tending but it shouldn’t feel like a drag, you know? The people you surround yourself with should make you happy and fulfilled and not make you always feel like murdering them in a fit of blackout rage. (Although, maybe even the best relationships all have those moments, not mine of course, but I’ll leave open the possibility that we all feel like doing a little murdering at some point.)
When it comes to that special someone, they need to be your oasis; when life gets tough, they need to feel like home. One look or embrace with that person and it’s like nothing else matters. Work, money, responsibilities, stress, all that melts away in that moment. When you find that person who makes you feel like everything’s going to be all right, you need to LOCK IT DOWN. That feeling is the BEST. Knowing that no matter what happens, they are going to love you and stay by you and that when you strip away all the bullshit in life, when you take out all the things that don’t really matter and get down to it, isn’t that all that counts? That you’re not in this thing alone?
I’m not saying everyone needs to pair off or that a relationship is the absolute end-all because I could easily be a lone wolf and be fine, but what I am saying is that if you align yourself with the wrong person it makes life an absolute living hell. But if you find someone that really complements you, why not team up? Strength in numbers.
(Source: lily--belle)
